when you disregard my illness, you disregard me.
people who say they don’t notice my oddness terrify me
What I can’t stand is when people say “But your social skills are fine” and they haven’t even talked to me that long. And they don’t even mean it, they’re just saying it because they feel like it would be rude to acknowledge that my social skills aren’t fine. But what it actually does, is it means that when my social skills inevitably fail me, they will see it as deliberate rudeness rather than a social skills problem. And that’s why it scares me.
oh my god yes
i hate when people who have just met me are all “i don’t notice anything?”
…yet. you don’t notice anything yet. you don’t notice anything yet. yet yet yet yet yet yet yet yet yet yet yeeeeeeeeeeeeet.
The worst part is when sometimes even people who’ve known me for YEARS are with me when I’m verging into shutdown/meltdown mode and ask if I’m “on drugs”
I’ll add to the “but you do so well for yourself,” which I get about my personality all the time. They never see the bad times, which I hide at home. So if I do slip in public, I’m seen as a massive jerk instead of needing genuine help.
Think before you speak.
My new college has me set to take a math placement exam. This is even though I’ve taken enough math classes for my original degree program AND I took pre-calculus at a networked community college this spring under their instruction to do so. I thought this might be an error, so I called to ask about it.
I have no qualms with math. I’m very good at it and it comes naturally to me. That said, to work the problems out, you have to write down steps. This can’t be typed, and the best option I’ve found is drawing them on my tablet with my finger. While this works for me, it’s really painful (not as painful as actually writing, of course). I was hoping to avoid this test for that reason.
The person I spoke with assumed I didn’t want to take it because everyone hates math. She actually said to me, “Oh, it won’t take that long to do. It won’t hurt as bad as you think it will.”
"It won’t hurt as bad as you think it will."
Granted, she had little idea of the problems I have. We met twice almost a year ago. She’s the one who told me to take pre-calc, so I know I brought up the issue. I don’t fault her for forgetting. My memory is shit, so I can’t get mad at others for things I do. That said, she shouldn’t have said that to ANYONE! You never know if the person you’re speaking to is disabled and might have issues with things.
What she said was VERY offensive to me. I wasn’t able to speak for about ten seconds after she said it. I face-palmed so hard that I may have left a permanent handprint. I tried to explain my writing problems, granted not as well composed as I would have liked. She didn’t make any effort to understand and tried to convince me to contact disability services to schedule to take the test on paper.
It’s not that hard to not be EXTREMELY OFFENSIVE like this. I just can’t wrap my head around why some people seem to not even be trying.